If you asked me a year ago if I would share my story, I would likely shrug my shoulders and mumble something like, “who cares?” AA is a behemoth and my criticisms were not welcomed by former “friends” of mine from the program. They would rather leave their beloved AA the same than make any improvements that would help more people such as myself.
This blog reveals how AA’s program echoes the pattern of abuse, and instead of helping me heal from abuse, going to meetings only continued the cycle. Frozen in a vulnerable state, I did not recognize the problem I had with AA for years. It seemed if I kept myself down then I would always return to AA as a power over me. “Abusers like easy targets, such as people who are starved for love or attention or who fear being abandoned. I also used alcohol to tamp down my feelings of shame and disgust from being emotionally, physically, and sexually abused.”
I am truly honored and grateful to Dr. Stanton Peele, author of Recover!: Stop Thinking Like an Addict and Reclaim Your Life with The PERFECT Program (with co-author Ilse Thompson) for all of the help, support and encouragement. I’ve waited a long time to share my story and this marks the beginning of my of shutting the door on the past, and making progress into the future.
Please visit the guest column link here: When AA Hurts.
For more about Dr. Stanton Peele’s work visit: www.peele.net