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Against Abuse in Recovery Meetings Eliminate the Danger


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Bio: When I was in high school, I wrote for the Cleveland Plain Dealer. I'm from Ohio, where I continue to write, draw, paint and make stuff. Find me at twitter @julietroxspin, Instagram @julietroxspin and Facebook @julietwenstudio. Research analyst and freelance writer; editor; ghostwriter.

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    1. Thanks πŸ™‚ Appreciate it! Updating the blog tonight and as often as possible.

  1. Great blog! Thanks for the work you are doing. Good content. So many people are not aware that courts mandate sex predators or violent felons or that AA and NA also invite them and embrace them!

    1. Thanks for your reply- I am hoping to keep this blog updated weekly and work on keeping it on point. I haven’t had time to edit typos but feel that is secondary to the message— More people need to know about this to put an end to this practice. The fact that these potential threats are sent across to meetings across the nation means it’s not an “isolated incident,” it’s more of a ticking time bomb.

      Thank you for reading & glad you like it. Please spread the word where you can. Much appreciated!

      1. We just added this site under Blogroll at http://www.nadaytona.org You might want to put a link on your website that links to your Facebook Page which is very active! Great work and right up my alley as to what my concerns are about AA and NA.

        Thanks again!

      2. Thanks for the add πŸ™‚ I’ll link the FB page here, very good idea lol, having one of those ‘duh’ moments πŸ˜€

    1. Thank you so much. And thanks for the link too. I’ll add links when I edit the blogs I posted too. They certainly haven’t changed with the times, although I find that odd because they tell their members they MUST change or they’ll DIE… if that advice as true wouldn’t AA do well to heed their own advice? “Program of Change” yeah, right. What’s truly cruel & WRONG is giving people the impression they can’t ever leave. The people who stick with AA aren’t dumb, they wouldn’t join any other group in their real lives that told them such nonsense, I almost think there’s brainwashing drugs in AA’s coffee at this point. I can’t explain the unconditional love people & affection people have for AA to the point they won’t change a single word in their books or make a rule to protect people from abuse— How sick is that?

    1. I am all about getting the word out. I don’t want to back down and am looking for all the support out there we can all get…

    2. thank you, I hope to tinker with the design again and get it to where I really want this blog to be.

  2. It is nice to find others who do not consider AA the holy grail of rehab, that other options should be available. Federal and state courts aren’t the only institutions that require AA as part of a perceived, punitive, recovery mandate. Many professional boards do so as well. Why must this one religious text have a monopoly on public perception of addiction recovery ?
    I, as a non-theist, find the AA philosophy rather revolting. One of my first, very vivid memories relating to it was of a member stating to another, in an arrogant tone, that I don’t know who Bill W is. It was as if he believed he was in possession of some higher knowledge that I was thus far ignorant of. People need to wake up and realize that what may work for some doesn’t work for all.

    1. I’m seeing that nursing board, attorney programs and other professional boards require AA and will not accept alternatives. I am hunting down the topic in Ohio, although I’m sure the reasons are similar across state lines.

      The religious aspects of AA don’t just bother atheists (myself included), but people who belong to the “real” religions who feel AA is a false-religion, and destructive to their views as well.

      My main mission is to allow more people to be critical and vocal against AA. The silence has to stop. And we need to speak to people outside of “recovery” and get the word out about how we feel. Thank you so much, it is nice to know I’m not alone too.

      P.S. Once you know who Bill W. is, is it really worth bragging about? If they were really Bill’s friends, they’d be dropping LSD, consulting the Ouija board, and cheating on their significant others.

    1. Thanks so much. Please pass this page along if you can. Much appreciated πŸ™‚

  3. Really glad I discovered this blog.
    I am interested to hear your thoughts on this aspect of the AA program –
    I started going to meetings and attempting to live a sober life 3.5 yrs ago. Since then , I have had numerous relapses, the last one a month ago. What I find very counter productive and detrimental is the day count and the coin system. If you relapse after 1 week, 1 year or 10 years, you have to “start your day count over” and the “fellowship” treats it as if you lost all of the sober time you had. Even worse is the day count before the meeting starts –
    Jim has 21 days *applause!*
    Sandy has 254 days *rousing applause!*
    Nick just came back, he has 3 days *half assed applause, whispers in hushed tones and the most condescending statement ever* =
    “Aw, nick, just keep coming back, OK?”

    Am I being overly sensitive or does this make sense?

    Thanks for reading,


    1. I would look up some resources like the orange papers or HAMS network. Some people have negative effects from attending AA, and it’s different for all why/how that is. To make the commitment to abstain is a great thing, but many in AA feel if they take one drink it equals one drunk, and many believe this increases and encourages binge drinking. The “powerless” concept might contribute to the feeling one cannot stop once they start. You’re not being overly sensitive. I had the same questions while in AA, and I felt bad I couldn’t ask these questions in an AA meeting. One of those red flags that told me I was not getting support if I couldn’t talk openly at meetings. I can send you some links if you are looking for some more specific information, such as the NESARC data showing the majority of Americans recover without any program at all. Alcoholism is the lowest rung of the “disease” scale, if it was a disease, that’s speculative. The disease idea has also been part of why people think AA members relapse so often, they are convinced it’s beyond their control b/c of their disease. Most recover from alcoholism/alcohol dependence and abstain or even moderate without meetings. I don’t recommend drinking if you are having negative consequences, likely if you are leaving AA behind there would be de-programming involved. That may or may not require therapy, or at least some time abstaining and thinking of your options.

  4. Its working to save and change lives for the better of an estimated 2million people throughout the World…!!!!

    1. I’ve seen the 2011 membership surveys. I also see where AA has the 98% USA rehab monopoly. Our tax dollars pay for addiction services which directly send approx 90% of all clients directly to AA. Or NA. Our tax dollars pays for the same grants that send court ordered DUI drivers to AA meetings. Our tax dollars pay for the same grants that send violent and sexual offenders to AA meetings.

      The majority of people in AA right now are not there by choice. At least when McDonald’s makes claims it serves “X” billion per year we can imagine those people were not court ordered to eat at McDonald’s.

  5. I am glad that I found you. I don’t want to be abused or beat up/beat on anymore at meetings. In doing a long hard look (or inventory) of my attendance at “certain meetings,” I have been abused and just won’t take it anymore. There are options. The best one for me right now is to “vote with my feet” and walk away–walk in a different direction than in places and people that abuse me.

    1. That is important because dwindling AA membership will help with supply & demand of their services. People who’ve attended and left AA behind tend do leave for moral reasons. Bullying is wrong at any age, anywhere. Too much of AA’s teachings operate on threats. They simply disguise the threats with “It works if you work it” followed by applause. That just confused me. Just like AA closing w/ the Lord’s Prayer when it’s not religious. Would love to hear an update sometime.

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